You do not have to justify everything that you do.
You do not have to justify who you are as a person.
A lot of guys tend to have this need to give some kind of reason or explanation for their actions in order to justify their intentions to women that they’re interacting.
They tend have this need to justify all of their thoughts, words and actions.
DON’T!
Instead of coming from the seller dynamic and wanting to qualify yourself to the women that you’re interacting with, come from the buyer dynamic and start assuming your reality and who you are as a person.
Women are not looking for any kind of logical explanation.
They are not looking at the material context of the interaction.
They are looking at the subcommunications and the general vibe instead.
Don’t justify.
Start assuming instead.
That certainty in who you are is all that you’ll ever need.
First!
Nice man. I resonate a lot with this. ‘Assume you reality’ is so damn powerful.
if you have justified enough that she is safe talking to you yes you can move to the buyer dynamic. If not you better justify first. I mean even if you were going to get in a store to buy something you might want to make sure the seller doesnt get scared from you. I rarely go for girls that are 9s and 10s. All my gfs had some insecurity so making sure at the begining of the interaction that I am really a buyer not a thief was necessary.
Yes, this is huge for me, something I’ll be implementing from now on.
Thanks for posting this, short article but SOO important. I’m really prone to trying to justify everything I do, even to myself. And this ALWAYS kills me with girls as you mention. I’ve noticed it over the years of game but ya… logical reasons to justify something SUCK.
Yo, walking on water wasn’t built in a day but the message…
-as true now it was in 2,000 yrs ago.
“Everybody’s Rapping Like It’s A Commercial
Actin’ Like Life Is A Big Commercial
So This Is What I’ve Got To Say To You All
Be True To Yourself And You Will Never Fall”
-Beastie Boys
It’s a good article. But the hard part isn’t realizing this – the hard part is living it.
Sometimes I still catch myself making justifications/explanations for what I do and how I feel. Social conditioning runs deep… It takes patience to undo it all.
Sweet article! It changed my life!
Jeff Tom