I just finished yet another Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp here in Boston!
It was great to be able to meet up with Papa, Tyler, Todd and Alexander~ during my brief stay here as well.
You can expect A LOT of new interesting projects in the near future as well as a whole new take on the RSD INNER CIRCLE!
I’m going to be located here in the United States for a couple more weeks where I’ll be doing events in Los Angeles and Austin, before heading over to Australia and New Zealand where I’ll be doing events with Alexander~.
These are also going to be the last events that I’m going to be doing here in the United States for a while, so if you’re located here then I’d highly recommend that you do not miss out!
Here are my next Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp dates…
May 10 – 12, 2012: Los Angeles
May 17 – 19, 2012: Austin (taught with Tyler)
May 24 – 26, 2012: Perth (taught with Alexander~)
May 31 – June 2, 2012: Melbourne (taught with Alexander~)
June 7 – 9, 2012: Sydney (taught with Alexander~)
June 14 – 16, 2012: Auckland (taught with Alexander~)
What I would like to take the time and share with you here today is the story behind my VERY FIRST APPROACH… EVER!
I was never a “natural” at this.
To tell you the truth, I was nowhere near what most people would consider as a “natural” in terms of success with women!
I would probably be considered as what most people would call “average”, or maybe just a little bit below “average” depending on the type of social situation I would find myself in at the time.
And if the type of social situation that I would find myself in at the time was cold approach pickup, then I was probably closer to what you would call a “complete disaster.”
And I would never have been able to approach any women at all if it would have had to do this all on my own.
Which brings me to point that I would like to illustrate through this story which is:
Not only coming from a subjective point of view.
The importance of finding people to go out with and having some sort of objective feedback in order to your progress in this area of your life.
I remember back when I was first starting out in all of this, I would be spending hours at a time walking around and roaming the streets in hopes of approaching and interacting with women without any success, at all.
I was mentally and physically unable to approach women.
It was something that was impossible for me to do!
And if I hadn’t found other people with a similar interest in this area of their lives, I don’t think that I would have ever been able to approach, at all.
If I wouldn’t have had any kind of objective feedback by going out with other people who would “wing” me in the interactions that I was having, then I would never have had the kind of success with women that I have now.
CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT I RECORDED AT THE BOSTON FREE TOUR THAT REVEALS THE MOST IMPORTANT CONCEPTS WHEN IT COMES TO INNER GAME AND THE IMPORTANCE OF NOT ONLY COMING FROM A SUBJECTIVE POINT OF VIEW:
My very first approach lasted about 30 seconds…
It was back in 2007 and it was the first time that I had ever met up in with anyone else who was also involved in this.
I met up with three other guys, and I was quickly paired up with the most inexperienced of the three: a fourteen year old kid wearing a pink boa, who was taller than me and who looked older than me.
Yes, I know what you’re thinking…
However, as soon as we split up into these groups and I started seeing him approach woman after woman with such an ease and such positivity, everything just seemed to finally click for me.
“If HE can do it, then so can I!”
It was on that day that I realized that cold approach pickup was first of all possible, and that cold approach pickup was NO BIG DEAL, at all.
A lof of guys tend to come from the frame where cold approach pickup is something that is impossible and something that has been overblown in their minds.
They tend to come from the frame where every approach is similar to some kind of mission where the fate of the world depends on their success in the interaction at hand. When it should just be something that’s fun and natural for you to do in general.
Now don’t get me wrong, the rules of cold approach pickup still apply:
You still have to approach.
You still have to move the interaction forward.
But the general vibe that encompasses all of that is something that is just fun and lighthearted.
And this is something that I never would have realized or learned on my own and if it wouldn’t have been for him.
This is something that I never would have realized or learned if I had only been coming from that subjective point of view in terms of success with women in general.
What you have to realize is that nobody has ever gotten good at this by only going out alone.
Going out alone is of course much better than not going out at all, but if you’re only going out on your own then you have to realize that you’re only going to be coming from a subjective point of view that is your own.
And when you’re the only person that can give yourself any type of feedback then it’s very easy to stagnate and get caught up in what we like call “intermediate purgatory.”
You need to find some kind of objective feedback!
You need to find people to go out with.
You need to find new articles to read or new videos to watch!
You have to stimulate your mind and inspire yourself with new ideas that you might not have thought of on your own.
You cannot be doing all of this on your own.
Why make things harder than they are?
Start stepping out of the subjective mindset. ;]