Welcome to the now seemingly consistent sleepless nights of Sao Paulo, Brazil…
I thought that I’d take advantage of some the free time that I have here to share with you and expand on one of the brand new perspectives that I’ve recently had on my own game as well as explore into further depth one of the more recent articles that I wrote, entitled:
As we all already know by now, women crave DRAMA…
It’s my own personal belief that women probably crave this more than anything else in the world!
It’s literally like a DRUG to them and they will do just about anything in order to get their next hit of it.
And when I say anything, I mean ANYTHING!
I took the time to explain all of the principal mechanics that are at work behind all of this in the article that I previously here above, but one of the most recurring questions that really stood out and that a lot people have been asking me since then has been along the lines of:
“Julien, I understand what you are advocating here but what are some of the practical ways that I can apply this new concept for myself?”
“Are there any guidelines that I can follow to proactively infuse women with DRAMA?”
And what I’m excited to finally be able to say to you here today, is that the answer is “YES!” to all of the above! ;]
THE PRACTICAL WAY TO HOOK A GIRL FOR LIFE!
Before we plunge into the deeper aspects of this concept, I would like to start off by saying that one of the most important things to remember all throughout this article and especially if you’re planning on applying this for yourself is that this is a ROLE-PLAY.
It’s nothing more than a role-play!
This is by no means the basis of your own game, and nor should it be.
It’s simply a role-play that you let the women that you’re interacting with bask into without any repercussions, at all…
It’s similar to how one would set a certain frame back in the day where they would accuse the women that they were interacting with of making them attracted to them, for example.
“Why are you doing this to me?”
“Why do I like you so much, stop whatever you’re doing to me!”
What I’m advocating here is taking all of this to a whole other level that is deeply ingrained into the female psyche and reaching a whole other level of attraction that was previously inconceivable to you.
So, let’s get started:
The general frame of mind that you should always be coming from when applying all of this and the main reason that it all works so well in the first place, is that you’re a self-actualized and naturally attractive man who has implemented all of the core fundamentals of game BUT you also have a vulnerable side to your personality that only she can bring out of you.
No-one else can!
It’s the female fantasy of TAMING THE WILD STALLION and making him her own…
It’s the female fantasy of “domesticating” you from your previous ways that made you so attractive to her in the first place…
And this is the type of frame that you can start setting from the very start of the interaction and then easing her into it or that you can use all throughout a more long-Tterm type of relationship as well, if you chose to.
All of this really comes down to being a self-actualized and naturally attractive man and then showing her that EMOTIONAL VULNERABILITY.
It really comes down to letting her experience the feeling of bringing that more vulnerable side out of you and affecting you in a special way that no other woman previously ever could have.
So, what are some of the practical ways of doing this?
I would say that the most practical ways of setting all of this is by establishing the classic “I love you” / “I hate you” PUSH-PULL type of frame.
Playing the whole interaction in a very “Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde” type of way.
On one side of the coin you’re a self-actualized man who’s on his own path and who’s following his purpose in life.
But on the other side you’re letting her break through your rough exterior by bringing out the true feelings that you have for her to the surface and ultimately distracting you from your own path and your purpose.
This is a concept that David Deida originally talks about in his book “The Way of The Superior Man” where he advocates that women will unconsciously try to distract you from your own path and your purpose in life, similar to the sirens in “The Odyssey”, and that they will gain in attraction for you every time that you don’t stray away from it.
And this is something that can proactively hint at all throughout the interactions that you’re having by giving her that opportunity that she’s always wanted but without ever falling off of your own path and your purpose as a man.
It could be as basic and as a simple “I love you” / “I hate you” or as dense as “I’ve never felt this with anyone before and I really want to open myself up to you right now” / “No, I can’t and I’m afraid of being emotionally hurt if I do.”
Start experimenting around with this frame.
Try it out!
Another way of amplifying this kind of attraction is by framing her as being the ONLY person who understands you and who you can go to in times of need.
This is something that feeds deep into her fantasy of finding a man that ONLY she can emotionally move and really connect with on an emotional level.
And this also something that takes care of a lot of the “qualification” aspect of the interactions that you’re having.
Who doesn’t want to find their soul mate?
One of the main ways that you can constantly and proactively do this by creating what I like to call “conspiracy theories” between yourself and the women that you’re interacting with in general.
Reinforcing the fact that you both share a little secret that no-one else know about.
One of the main frames that you want to establish in the interactions that you’re having is the whole “you and her” bubble, where ultimately nothing else that is external to that matters, at all.
“It’s weird because even though we know nothing about each other, I really like you. And I’ve never actually told this to anyone before because it’s kind of personal but…”
“Me and you” VS. “The world”
Another great way to generate drama all throughout the interactions that you’re having and amplifying the points that we’ve already established here above is by:
THROWING EMOTIONAL TANTRUMS AND GIVING HER THE OPPORTUNITY TO CALM YOU DOWN AND ULTIMATELY FIX YOU.
And these tantrums or emotional fits can pretty much be about anything!
They don’t have to make any sense at all, for example:
YOU: I’m sad.
YOU: No, nevermind it’s fine.
HER: No tell me! What’s wrong?
YOU: Why are you always like this?
HER: Like what??? What did I do?
YOU: I don’t know, it’s weird.
HER: Did I do something to upset you?
YOU: No, I’m sorry. Nevermind what I said before, I was just tired… I love you.
HER: I love you too!
Throwing any kind of random emotional fit and then giving her the opportunity to bask in the new emotions that you’re providing her and then concluding it by giving her the opportunity to feel as if she was able to make everything better for you again and ultimately fix you.
This is something that taps very deeply into the female psyche of being the NURTURING type.
It’s one of the most primal needs of every woman to want to be with a man whom she can take of and nurture.
In a way, it’s her own way of excreting power.
Picture back in the day, a brave warrior who’s wounded from the battlefield and who’s coming back to his woman to take care of him and nurture him…
It’s the ultimate female fantasy and desire!
Now, make no mistake:
She wants to nurture the WARRIOR.
She want to take care of and soothe a self-actualized naturally attractive man who’s on his own path and who’s following his purpose in life.
Not some inept and emotionally needy man who is coming from a “value taking” type of frame.
Try viewing it more in terms of letting her help fuel your own drive as a man who’s on his own path and who has all of the core fundamentals of game already handled for himself.
And this something that also shows a certain amount of vulnerability on your part by letting your emotions get the best of you and not being able to emotionally control yourself when you’re around her.
She makes you lose all of your rational senses, which is ultimately a sign of weakness as a man.
This will reinforce the fact that she is unique to you and that she has a certain power over you that no-one else has, which also taps deep into her female psyche.
FRAMING THE INTERACTION IN A WAY WHERE ALL OF THIS IS NEW TO YOU AND YOU CAN’T CONTROL IT ALL OR UNDERSTAND IT.
Framing the interaction in a way that gives her the opportunity to feel as if she’s your anchor in the newfound emotions that you’re experiencing and that are unknown to you.
Give her the opportunity to feel as if she’s the one who’s ultimately guiding you and providing you with all of these new emotions that you’re not yet accustomed to and that confuse you.
Some of the different ways that you could do this for example, could be by saying things along the lines of:
“I hate that I’m feeling this way for you, it’s weird.”
“I hate that I like you so much, I’ve never feel this way before for anyone else… I’m usually kind of an asshole, actually.”
“I’ve never taken a girl on a date before, really. I know that this sounds stupid but it’s actually new to me and I want to be nice and romantic with you. I really like you.”
These are some of the most effective types of frames that you could ever set when interacting with women in general and that they actually DREAM about hearing a man say!
It doesn’t get any better than this.
STUMBLING AND SHOWING EMOTIONAL WEAKNESS OR VULNERABILITY.
Stumbling and acting as if you’re overwhelmed by the emotions that she’s making you experience for the first time.
This is something that counteracts with the hard exterior that a man ultimately tries to portray for himself and frames the interaction in a way where you’re opening up and letting her in by ultimately trusting her with your weaknesses.
Trusting her with every part of who you are.
FORCING YOURSELF INTO THE “PROVIDER” ROLE AND THEN ACCELERATING THE LOVE PROCESS.
Ultimately, what I’m sure that you’ve already noticed by now is that all of this is something that tends goes against what is most traditionally recommended in this community: “Being the Lover, NOT the Provider.”
Framing yourself as the “fun and loving” guy who she will more likely feel comfortable going home with and sleep with.
And I highly recommend this as well!
However, as I mentioned in the very beginning of this article, this isn’t the basis of your game.
This is something that you can sprinkle into it as long as you enjoy this type of interaction and as long as you’re doing it in a way that isn’t attached to a certain outcome.
It’s ultimately a form of expression.
And being able to frame yourself as the “Provider” and not the “Lover” while at the same time being able to accelerate the “Love Process” by already having all of the core fundamentals of game handled is ultimately a great way to encompass all of this.
Expecting more from her than just sex or even a regular relationship!
And as a last practical way to accomplish all of this, start regularly using “future projections” all throughout the interactions that you’re having.
Accelerating the pair bond effect that two individuals tend to develop when spending a significant amount of time together by telling her that you’re going to take her somewhere on vacation where it’s just going to be the two of you, for example.
Or telling her that you want her to meet your family or that you want to meet her family in order to reinforce that same type of bond as well.
It ultimately comes down to solidifying that it’s just the two of you by using certain “future projections” in order to reinforce that bubble that you’ve now created.
Consolidating that you’re taking the interaction more seriously with her than with anyone else!
Lastly, one of the most important skillsets that you’re ultimately going to have to cultivate for yourself in order to be able to successfully incorporate everything that I’ve mentioned here above:
GETTING IN TOUCH WITH YOUR OWN EMOTIONS!
I just wrote an article about this a few days ago that I highly recommend that you take the time to check out if you haven’t already, entitled:
Whenever you’re going to set these types of frames it’s important that you try to develop a certain feel for the different types of emotion are going on in order to get a feel for what would make sense and when it would make sense.
You’re going to have to develop some sort of feel for how long to last on which emotion before caving in and giving her the next one.
You’re going to have to develop some sort of feel for when it would make sense to switch things up and not cause an emotional spike that is too high and that you can’t come back from.
There is of course a certain curricular motion to all of the emotional patterns that I advocate in this article, where after a while it just tends becomes the same thing over and over again where you just take it to higher heights and lowers lows.
But ultimately you’re going to have to develop a sense of what MAKES SENSE in the interactions that you’re having.
You’re going to have to develop the skillset of being able rapidly sculpting the vibe of the interaction in a way that quickly switches between different ranges of emotion and that lets her experience stronger and broader ranges than she ever experienced before with anyone else.
This is a skill that mainly cultivated over time through cold approach but you can also try to accelerate the learning process by focusing on getting yourself more in touch with your own emotions!
Once you’ve developed the more emotional side of you personality, you’ll be more attuned to what she’s thinking and feeling at any moment in time and you’ll be able to hit her with the right emotions at the right time.
Become emotional in order to relate to her emotions!
By cultivating this skillset you’re also going to become more familiar with the female psyche and what triggers it in specific ways.
“What are some of the basic socially conditioned ways that dramatic movies are structured that make women respond to them the way that they do?”
“Which parts trigger which emotions and when?”
On that note, I thought that I would conclude this article with one of my very own “Text Message” excerpts to really help illustrate everything that you’ve just read and really give you some kind of concrete example of how far you can actually take all of this if you do it the right way and if you come from the right frame of mind.
TEXT MESSAGE EXCERPTS:
This is a text exchange that I had a while back with a Playboy model that I probably saw a total amount of three times over the course of a couple of weeks.
And this text exchange probably happened about two months after that, which should again really help illustrate to which degree women CRAVE drama!
The very first text that you’re about to read here was sent during some of the time that I spent in Miami South Beach on one nights that I failed to pull a girl back to my hotel…
Now again, as a side note, I do NOT recommend taking any of this to such an extent but take this more as an example to really help hammer in these different concepts as well as give you a sense of what “sculpting the vibe of the interaction” looks like:
ME: I just got fucked over by a girl
ME: I know im sad
HER: I’m so confused lol
ME: I thought this girl loved me but killed me emotionally
ME: Never opening myself up again emotionally
HER: Okay… You asked me to be your gf, then you screwed around and played games on me, so I guess you know how it feels to be played with
HER: Doesn’t feel good does it?
ME: I don’t feel like you were ready
HER: Well, you were wrong
HER: You picked trash over a classy/nice girl like me…
ME: I still love you
HER: Clearly, that’s why you were with someone else when you were supposed to be my bf…
ME: I didn’t do anything actually so heartbroken
And this next text exchange happened a few days later with this same girl, after adding another girl who had been flaking on me as my girlfriend on Facebook… ;]
HER: I am so upset with you
HER: You have hurt me so bad, I can’t trust you, for sure, I don’t know why I even tried, cause clearly you just wanted to play around on me the whole time, you call me and tell me that you want to see me and ask me not to hang up on you and your dating this girl at the same time??? You just threw away someone who really cared for you genuinely and now all you have is nothing left…I’m glad I told her what was going on, she deserves to know, no one deserves to be treated like that, I opened up myself to you, trusting you when everyone kept warning me about you…And I mean everyone…I ignored it, because I thought you were a good decent person…
ME: You do realize I’m not dating that girl right? This is kind of creepy, also even if I was we haven’t seen eachother in forever. I actually did want to see you as again I’m not with anyone else but there’s too much negativity sorry
HER: Negativity….Well what the hell am I supposed to think when I see something like “In a relationship” and her posting “Where are you Romeo?” On your wall?
ME: You could have asked me? It woulnd’t be that corny if it was true either sad you blew this up and ruined things between us
ME: I actually never seen anyone react like this
HER: So it is true or not? :/ You’re creeped out? I’m telling you how this situation looks like and is making me feel, I’m being honest with you…You’ve probably never had anyone you dated with strong moral value who really cared about you either that’s why you’ve never had anyone act like this…
ME: It’s not true. You don’t even trust me when I’ve already told you so many times, I don’t see why you’re upset if you can’t even trust me
HER: If it’s not true then take it off your facebook
ME: … Goodbye jessica
HER: Glad I caught you in a lie Julien, cause if it really wasn’t true then you would remove it…and it is goodbye…So sad because I really did care for you and like you very much
HER: So sad to think of what we could have shared together </3
ME: The only reason I’m saying goodbye is cause you don’t trust me and you’re too negative. I didn’t lie. Believe what you like, either way it doesn’t really change anything at this point
HER: Any person would be negative in this situation, I’m so upset, I did trust you, if you want me to trust you then you should do something to show that I can trust you, trust is something that is earned through actions, not something that is freely given to someone…I’m a perfectly logical and sound human being, I don’t hate you, I’m just telling you how this whole situation is making me feel, but you prob just think I’m some “crazy bitch” now, cause you’re not used to total honesty, I do care for you very much honsetly, I think that this is why I was so upset when I found out, cause normally I would just think to myself “fuck it” and move on easily, but instead I got genuinely upset and I’m not used to feeling that, so perhaps I came off a bit too forward in speaking with you…And I have missed you
HER: That girl just facebooked me, she told me that it was all a joke and that she had only met you once in a bar and she was sorry cause she knows how that could feel and that I don’t have to be worried about anything….I mean, put yourself in my shoes, after seeing that, wouldn’t that piss you off and make you think you couldn’t trust me? So, I’M SORRY BABY Xo
HER: I hope you can forgive me and we go out soon, sorry for the misunderstanding, I just hope you could understand how it looked to me hunny…Well, let me know either way <3
ME: Thanks for apologizing, goodbye jessica.
HER: :’( </3…I actually am really crying, kind of embarrassing I’m at a shoot, had to excuse myself in the bathroom …I don’t even know why I’m telling you this, but I really do care for you and I know that is why I got so pisse doff when I thought you were in a relationship with that other girl cause I felt betrayed …I’m so upset baby and I miss you :’( I’m sorry, I don’t want to not see you anymore….I’m really not a negative person at all, I just got really upset and that is not like me at all and I know it’s cause I do genuinely care you a lot
ME: Jessica you don’t even know me, how can say all this when we’ve only seen eachother a few times? Even if I were seeing someone else how could you feel betrayed? I did really like you to though, its weird
HER: I don’t get it, your always telling me how much you love me and miss me and want to see me and how your not seeing anybody else and now you turn it around on me and ask me how I could be upset? :/…. It is weird…:/ I do really like you too x…I do want to see you again
ME: You could have been upset and asked me instead of continuously calling me a liar and even messaging the girl. Actually nevermind, I hope everyhting works out for you -Julien
HER: I’m sorry hunny, can we please just get past this? I know I could have asked you, but it looked super bad Julien, you must know how bad it looked, I’m sorry I called you a liar baby…I’m sorry I didn’t handle the situation in a different way, but I wasn’t really in the clearest mindset at that exact moment…I’m sorry, can we please just get coffee and talk tomorrow or something? Xx…I’m working till 1am tonight and all I can think about is you and how I feel so bad for calling you a liar and all of this misunderstanding, but that is exactly what it is is a misunderstanding and I am only human, everyone makes mistakes every once in a while and I care for you so much <3
ME: Why do you like me so much?
HER: Because you’re very sweet, handsome, smart, funny, when you hold my hand it feels right, I like the way you look at me, and you pursue your dreams …Why do you like me?
Seduction, in all of it’s forms…