How To Create A “Moment Of Realness” To Get The Girl


I’m quickly writing this article up here in Prague before leaving tomorrow and heading over to Zurich, Switzerland.

And I thought that I’d share with you this video that I shot just a few hours ago and that I think really illustrates an important concept that not that many people actually address that I like to call: The Moment of Realness.

Differentiating yourself from being viewed as just a concept, an emotion or a feeling from the women that you’re interacting with and actually presenting yourself to them as a real person.

As someone that they can actually see themselves interacting with again in the future instead of just that one time when they’re originally meeting you.

This is something that has tremendously helped me in terms of reducing the number of women that have flaked on me in the past when it comes to making the effort to seeing them again. And I think that this will also help you better understand what ‘having a good initial interaction’ actually means when you hear or read the saying:

How exactly do you prevent flaking? Having a good initial interaction with women that you’re interacting with.

The Moment of Realness.


  1. Craig~ November 24, 2011 at 10:54 pm - Reply


    Awesome, love it! I agree, being REAL is definitely a topic to that guys that are getting good should address if they want to see the girl again or set up a Day 2 if logistics aren’t good. And not just be that entertaining thing from the club.

    Push-pull explanation is solid as well, nicely detailed. Keep the videos coming mate!

  2. Nicks November 24, 2011 at 11:21 pm - Reply

    Loved it ! Nice work :)

    Yéyé ++

  3. HMA November 24, 2011 at 11:40 pm - Reply

    The info in the vid is good – however you personally, right now seem like your personality consists 50% of forcing yourself to be positive and 50% copying brads mannerism and humor. Find your own style, even if it’s not as flashy and grinning as other peoples. That’s where your value is, not copying other people or forcing yourself.

  4. Paris Boum Boum November 24, 2011 at 11:45 pm - Reply

    Nice vid man.

    • Julien November 30, 2011 at 4:45 pm - Reply

      Thanks man, I’m hoping to do Paris in a couple of weeks as well.

  5. Dave7 November 25, 2011 at 1:05 am - Reply

    Man, so glad you made your first video blog. RSD guys are so quality!

  6. Penis Pump Videos November 25, 2011 at 2:47 am - Reply

    WOW. Great vid Julien.

    So, your saying that “the moment of realness” is when you stop PUSHING your reality onto her, taking a step back, and giving the chemistry between you two grow naturally?

    Thats what I got from it.

  7. Harry November 25, 2011 at 2:53 am - Reply

    I swear the guy in the background is a PUA. Number close!

  8. Playboy November 25, 2011 at 3:58 am - Reply

    Cool Julien!

  9. yorro November 25, 2011 at 4:09 am - Reply

    great content bro i like the overall direction. finally smething REAL god dammit! : ) i hate all of this bullshit games people like to talk about. being real > being cool

    congrats! keep up the good work

  10. pringles November 25, 2011 at 4:20 am - Reply

    really good video mate

  11. Connor November 25, 2011 at 6:31 am - Reply

    Julien: I love your shit.

    Please continue to make videos – it sincerely helps me with my game a LOT.


  12. ChinaBoy November 25, 2011 at 8:16 am - Reply

    Awesome vid!

    Hahaha, it´s me in the background.

    BTW: Julien, already posted on RSDnation.


    • baz January 22, 2012 at 6:10 am - Reply

      yo dude, too much space between you and the girl and one thing that should help is practice some talk with your palms facing down. this changes your voice tonality. palms up is seeking rapport and is known as dog. cats speak with their palms down and your tonality changes to assertive. have a play around, listen to your tonality when you count 1 to 5 with them up, then down. latas

  13. Jove November 26, 2011 at 10:53 am - Reply

    love the content! LOVE IT!

    also, great job on this first vid. I don’t feel like you’re copying Brad…you just have good tonality.

    see ya

    • Julien November 30, 2011 at 5:09 pm - Reply

      Haha, thanks man!

  14. randombaz November 26, 2011 at 6:10 pm - Reply

    awesome! this felt like a genuine new point and it was delivered well, thanks

    can you get tyler to add to rsdnation, i only came across on the forum, more video blogs and advertisement in the future man! cheers

    • Julien November 30, 2011 at 4:59 pm - Reply


      It should normally be up on the frontpage of rsdnation by tomorrow, if all goes well.

  15. Bombastic November 28, 2011 at 3:08 am - Reply

    Great video, man. You`re a great speaker, I had no real image of who you were until seeing this video. You should definitely do more.

    • Julien November 30, 2011 at 4:56 pm - Reply

      On it. :)

      Yeah, I’m hoping to post up some of my speeches when I get back to the right video editing equipment in Los Angeles as well as some of the new INFIELD that I’ve recently recorded.

  16. Paul December 1, 2011 at 7:00 pm - Reply

    Excellent man. I like to think of it as a balance between the you as a subject, and the you as an object. The you as pure presence and emotion, something fluid, you defined as energy, and the you defined in something definite, as an identity.

  17. Giuliano December 4, 2011 at 11:50 am - Reply

    That´s right man. A real comment from filed experience. Not some stupid shit like body language. This video kicks ass!!!

  18. ManyGz January 4, 2012 at 1:21 am - Reply

    Good speech, I remembered some things haha
    Many greetings and hopefully there is more.

  19. Sebastian January 14, 2012 at 6:20 am - Reply

    Julien will you be doing the double HotSeat in Birmingham come December this year?

    I’d be so psyched for that event, to see your HotSeat and Foundations Seminar.

    Cheers! Sebastian

    • Julien January 14, 2012 at 1:29 pm - Reply


      I’ll be doing all of the Hot Seat 2 events that are outside of the USA.

      Try to check back next week for the promotional video that I’ll be releasing with some of my own Infield Footage in it as well! ;]

  20. C00lDode May 30, 2012 at 3:01 pm - Reply

    Hey, awesome. Will you do Hotseat in Sweden?
    For someone who is new to this stuff.
    What does the pushing consist of? the “BAM”
    kind of thing.

  21. Lisa July 10, 2012 at 6:48 pm - Reply

    Julien you are gorgeous!

  22. kaunas December 20, 2012 at 8:48 pm - Reply

    this fag can’t even get laid. he’s just kissing drunk girls. If he would do this to my girls while she is drunk I would kill this loser. Who do you even listen to these idiots? Wake up people, they’re making money off you, stop giving them the attention.

  23. The Pickup Artist June 20, 2013 at 8:54 am - Reply

    I see why this is 1 of the most popular posts on this site. Great video as usual from around the globe!

    Viva RSD!

  24. Socialkenny PUA June 20, 2013 at 8:56 am - Reply

    Hey Julien, nice stuff as usual.

    Just for reference sake and curiosity, whom did you learn inner game from?

  25. Marshan Beals January 3, 2014 at 4:46 pm - Reply

    I remember reading this article on RSDN. Really good stuff.

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