What’s up!
I just finished running yet another successful Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp here in Copenhagen, Denmark…
Which unfortunately also marks the end of my very first European Tour. (I’ll be back in September, 2012!)
On a positive note however, I’m actually currently getting ready to catch my flight over to Boston where I’m going to be meeting up with Tyler to run another one of our now infamous Tyler / Julien Bootcamps!
So if you’re located in the United States here are my next Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp dates…
May 3 – 5, 2012: Boston (taught with Tyler)
May 10 – 12, 2012: Los Angeles
May 17 – 19, 2012: Austin (taught with Tyler)
www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com
On that note, the topic that I would like to take the time and share with you today is about HEIGHTENING YOUR SENSE OF AWARENESS.
Heightening your sense of awareness whenever you’re interacting with women in general.
A lot of guys, especially when they first start getting into all of this, usually tend to come from a very closed-minded point of view when interacting with women as well as in terms of the way that they view the interaction overall.
Their only focus and their only concern is THEMSELVES.
That is all that they care about!
“WHAT ABOUT ME?”
“What am I feeling in relation to this woman whom I’m interacting with?”
“Am I in state? Am I out of state?”
“How does this make me feel?”
“What about me?”
And they are completely oblivious to the women that they’re interacting with as well as the environment that’s around them…
The more that you start interacting with women the more that you want to start heightening your sense of awareness!
The questions that you should be asking yourself should be:
“How is she feeling in relation to me?”
“Is she feeling comfortable with whatever direction I’m trying to lead the interaction in?”
As well as…
“How are her friends feeling in relation to us?”
“Are they feeling comfortable with whatever direction I’m trying to lead the interaction in?”
You’re going to want to start being more aware of what she’s thinking and feeling at all times during the interaction as well as what her friends are thinking and feeling.
And you’re always going to want to be responsive to her situation.
Now, this is only when interacting with women in general…
How does this apply in terms of the way that you view the interaction?
Start viewing the BIGGER PICTURE.
A lot of guys are coming from frame of mind where they’re thinking that every single second of the interaction is going to determine whether they’re going to end up getting the girl or not.
They’re coming from the delusional frame of mind where every single second of the interaction HAS TO BE PERFECT all of the way through in order for them to get the girl.
This is also one of the main reasons why people are so fascinated with the different ways that you can open and start a conversation, for example.
They literally think that that little moment during the whole course of the interaction is going to be crucial to the end result, when in reality it does not make any kind of difference whatsoever!
Do you think that your opener matters in terms of getting the girl or not?
FUCK No!
CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT I RECORDED IN LONDON THAT REVEALS EVERYTHING THAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT OPENING AS WELL AS HOW IMPORTANT IT ACTUALLY IS IN THE LONG RUN OF THE INTERACTION:
Switching from thinking short-term to thinking long-term.
Pickup is messy. (Cf. Ozzie)
It’s a full range of emotions. (Cf. Alexander~)
There is never going to be an interaction that is going to be good all of the way through and there is never going to be an interaction that is going to be bad all of the way through.
It’s always going to be a combination of the two.
If there actually were an interaction that was good all of the way through then it would become boring to her and you would then become very predictable.
Women like that unpredictability.
They want that full range of emotions.
And at the same time, you’re not there to succeed at opening her and starting a conversation in the first place…
You’re there to get the girl!
Start viewing the bigger picture of the interaction.
Whenever you’re interacting with women start asking yourself:
“In the long run of the interaction, does this affect the end result? Yes or no?”
Heighten your sense of awareness.
First……
I think this is where many guys fail, especially at first – they get so caught up in “what’s the next thing I should do” that they forget to be there, in the moment, with the girl. I know I did this as a beginner and I still fall into this sometimes.
Another sucky side effect of wanting everything to be perfect is that it encourages you to be “the entertainer.” If you’re not cool with tension, taking risks, making the girl uncomfortable etc, and try to make everything smooth constantly, it’s real easy to screw up.
Good job on the post!