Game Changer: Women Have The Attention Span Of An ANT


Have you ever asked or thought to yourself, when interacting with women in general:

“What should I say or do to structure the interaction go in a certain way that I want?”

“What should I say or do to be able to be kissing her right now?”

“What should I say or do to able to be asking her for her phone number right now?”

“How do I build it all up to this?”

I have…

To be thinking in a very logical way where everything that I would say or do would  have be something that would have to be JUSTIFIED to her.

That it would have to be something that I would have to explain to her or that I would have to rationalize in a certain way to make it acceptable to the interaction.

It wouldn’t just be something that I would be able to say or do without any logical reason behind it.


Let me explain to you one of the most important concepts when it comes down to verbally and physically expressing yourself naturally.


They will literally not remember what has been said or done prior to what’s being directly presented in front of them at that exact moment in time.

To really brake this down in detail, women are constantly going to be externally pinging off of the environment around them and drawing all of their current emotional state based on that.

Everything that they’re going to be feeling at that particular moment is going to be entirely situational for them and therefor constantly changing.

It’s a constant flux.

And I think that this is also one of the main reasons why women are going to be addicted to experiencing a whole range of emotions from literally everything that’s surrounding them.

Their reality is always going to be dictated by what’s directly presented in front of them at that point in time. They’re not going to be focusing on or even remembering what has said or done in the past, even if it was just a second ago.

“Oh this is what’s being presented in front of me right now, I guess this is the new present reality.”

I would often catch myself in the past where I would be in a certain mindset where I wouldn’t feel entirely comfortable with some of the things that I would be saying or doing during the interaction and I would remember feeling a certain urge or a need to be very apologetic about it all.

I would actually even go as far as narrating what’s happening in that moment or even basing it on excuses that I would make up to make myself feel more comfortable with what’s happening.

I wasn’t realizing that all of that didn’t matter to her, at all.

If a woman’s reality is externally based on what’s directly in front of her, then there doesn’t have to be any logical line of conversation or any reason behind why you’re saying or doing anything at all.

If you want to kiss her for example, just kiss her. It could be anytime during the interaction even interrupting an important topic you’re both discussing.

It doesn’t matter.

Her mind is only going to process it in a way where she’s going to rationalize “Oh, we’re kissing now. I guess this is the new reality that I’m in.”

You don’t have to give yourself any extra time to orchestrate the situation right. The new reality will be established in her mind whenever you want it to be.

And this applies to what you’re saying as well.

She’s not going to remember anything you’ve previously said to what you’re currently saying at that time.

I would actually even go as far as saying that I don’t even properly structure my sentences anymore.

In past I might have been inclined to say something along the logical lines of the now classic “You have a good girl face, but every so often you make like these bad girl mannerisms.”

But it’s now gotten to the point where I would now just randomly blurt out “Bad girl mannerisms, bad girl mannerisms!” without any actual context behind it.

It makes no difference.

You could even go as far as just saying word after word with no connection between them whatsoever and get the same if not better reactions you would originally get. Which is what I now do, as a side not.

Women have the attention span of an ant. There doesn’t have to be any build up to what you’re saying or doing, at all.


  1. ChinaBoy September 4, 2011 at 1:09 am - Reply


    Don´t know if i´d do it in daygame. But definatively in a loud club.

    Do you have any tips for daygame (blog post)?


    • Julien September 4, 2011 at 3:08 am - Reply

      Hey man,

      I’ll definitely write up a blog post about daygame.

      In a nutshell though, it’s literally the exact same thing as if you’re going out at night. It all comes down to congruence and what exactly feels comfortable to you at that time.

  2. Smash 99 September 4, 2011 at 9:33 am - Reply

    Discovered you on the RSD Forums, and I’m a big fan of your site. Got this bookmarked on my Iphone, can’t wait for daygame article.

  3. yerai88 September 6, 2011 at 2:42 am - Reply

    Has anyone really been far even as decided to use even go want to do look more like?

  4. joe b September 6, 2011 at 12:38 pm - Reply

    nice, trying this in 2.5 minutes can’t let this go in the m&m (mental masterbation) pile.

  5. Neal September 8, 2011 at 4:27 am - Reply

    Stimulation is how I see it.
    and through this view:
    The reason for a “wide range of emotions” is that repeated stimuli of the same type leads to habituation.
    It gets boring.

    Girls are little kids who have played video games and never been outside to play.

    To take a simplistic view of it.
    They are stimulation addicts, they care more about the next fix than what just happened. The Next emotional high. Which doesn’t have to be pleasant and isn’t really a conscious choice.

    What would you rather be doing?
    Watching a tense situation where police are involved or picking up a hot chick?

    Me I would rather bang a hot chick.
    But last night my attention went from the girl I was hitting on to the 4 police officers.

    Girls are stimulated more by the next action you take than by the memory of what just happened to an extreme extent.

  6. Michael Cherry September 29, 2011 at 6:22 pm - Reply

    Nice, Nothing matters whats said.. all that matters is doing…… and tonality..

  7. Carlos October 29, 2011 at 3:09 pm - Reply

    Great post! In a sense it’s the realization that spiking her emotions is way more important than what you’re actually saying. Hell, you could go up to a girl and yell “I love the taste of tunaaaaa!” as you hug her tightly and scream it with a huge smile and get her laughing and feeling good. The subtext is way more important.

  8. peaceLion July 31, 2012 at 8:29 am - Reply

    you write here :“[...]If you want to kiss her for example, just kiss her. It could be anytime during the interaction even interrupting an important topic you’re both discussing.[...]“.
    But in your article , you write : “[...]However if you ever do encounter any real resistance on her part, stop.
    If there’s any doubt at all in your mind, stop.
    Don’t keep pushing for it if she really doesn’t want to.[...]”.
    So, I’m a bit confused…

  9. Alan October 24, 2012 at 4:14 am - Reply

    It’s not really about women’s attention span, I think it’s more about YOU, your reality, your energy and emotions. That’s what is sucking them in. They’re very flexible, humans are for the most part, but I think particularly women are even more.

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